Want to know a strange fact? People will often speak up in situations where they feel personal space is violated but rarely in situations of more important matters – such as domestic violence.

In the above video, a man plays his drums through a speaker system in a townhouse complex community of close neighbors. Soon after, several neighbors seek him out, actually knocking on his door, and express their indignation.

A few nights later, he blasts a rather intense sounding domestic violence recording through his speaker system at the same sound level as before.

What happened? Did the neighbors come running, complaining of noise again? If they didn’t, why not?

Man clenching fist at womanAs it turned out, not a single person came knocking when the situation involved domestic violence – and yes, there were sounds of hitting as well as yelling and screaming.

What is it about human nature that will compel a man to intercede on behalf of himself but not on behalf of others?

Fear likely plays a role, as many people simply feel scared to intervene. Others simply view a domestic dispute as a “lovers quarrel” and look the other way.

Whatever the reason, it’s wrong. Domestic violence is an always serious matter and it can only be prevented when society refuses to accept it no more.

How to Help Stop Domestic Violence

What are the steps that a person can take to help prevent domestic violence?

  • Call the police if you see or hear evidence of domestic violence.
  • Speak out publicly against domestic violence.
  • Take action personally against domestic violence when a neighbor, a co-worker, a friend, or a family member is involved or being abused.
  • Encourage your neighborhood watch or block association to become as concerned with watching out for domestic violence as with burglaries and other crimes.
  • Reach out to support someone whom you believe is a victim of domestic violence and/or talk with a person you believe is being abusive.
  • Help others become informed, by inviting speakers to your church, professional organization, civic group, or workplace.
  • Support domestic violence counseling programs and shelters.

Adapted from: “Preventing Domestic Violence” by Laura Crites in Prevention Communique, March 1992, Crime Prevention Division, Department of the Attorney General, Hawaii.